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Comment on Happy Thanksgiving! by Shar

Shar — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 15:37:55 +0000

I love you ! I’m saving this list b/c it’s so precious and so YOU! Thank you for reminding me of all the things that we are to be thankful for. I thank God for YOU!

Comment on Blood work, lab tests, and children don’t always mix. by Mom

Mom — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 19:43:40 +0000

thumbs up to moms who are learning everyday how to
best deal with the medical profession on behalf of
a great grandson who usually can take lots of pain.

Love you all, Fluffy

Comment on Blood work, lab tests, and children don’t always mix. by sarah walston

sarah walston — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 23:31:40 +0000

Hey! I’m just now getting around to your blog. I can SO relate to this post in so many ways. My oldest has anxiety. He had to have blood drawn last week. I WISH I had read this FIRST. Husbands going to mess around with the internet connection … but I’ll be back in a bit!

Comment on Eagle’s Wings by On Wings

On Wings — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 02:58:04 +0000

Interesting, I also remember the dreams of flying. What I remember most is the feeling of the air underneath me lifting me as I soared higher and then swooped down. Maybe that has something to do with my love for Isaiah 40:31 as well. My blog is On Wings and I have another blog called On Wings of Eagles.

Comment on Want your husband to treat you like a queen? by ruralmomof3

ruralmomof3 — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 13:24:02 +0000

Thank you for visiting my blog! I wanted to tell you I was sorry that your marriage is not what you had hoped but there is hope! I would highly recommend reading the book, “Created to be his helpmeet” by Debi Pearl as well as any books by James Dobson on the subject of marriage.

Often times in my own marriage I find that the things that first attracted me to my husband are now the things that drive me crazy. You might take some time to think about what first attracted you and remind yourself of the good qualities your husband has. Sometimes we focus so much on the bad that after a while that’s all we can see. It doesn’t mean that your husband has turned into a bad guy it’s just that sometimes we have to make special effort to focus on the good.

The other thing that I picked up on in your email was that you are working 2 jobs and, if I understood you correctly, your husband is in the construction business. The Bible talks about how God made men to be the providers in a home. I’m not trying to say that you shouldn’t work. However, your husband may be feeling as if his financial contribution to the family is not good enough for you. Is it possible for you to cut back to one job and make ends meet with his income and one of your jobs? It is highly important that a man feel validated and being able to provide for his family is one way to get that validation. As women it is our job to make do with what is provided- we have the creativity to do this well! God made women highly creative and adaptable. The book of Proverbs (chap 31 is excellent) talks about this. Sit back and look at the family finances. If you have major credit card debt, check out Dave Ramsey or Crown Financial on the internet for help. Look at ways that you can make ends meet with less money.

The other thing I noticed is that you like to go out with your friends and your husband likes to stay home. Did your husband stop being a friend? If one of your girlfriends invited you over for a “stay at home” movie night with the girls, would you go? This is another way to validate him and make him feel worthwhile- pump him up emotionally by staying home for snuggle time and watching CSI together (or doing something that doesn’t cost money). He may very well be preferring to stay home and smoke because he feels like crap physically and emotionally. Construction work is draining physically and he probably comes home very tired. Our homes are supposed to be our havens of rest- a sanctuary to come to and rid our minds of the day. Think about what might make your’s more relaxing for your husband- perhaps it’s just having you stay home with him or perhaps your home needs a little extra care to make it more organized and homey.

So, these are my main points:

Read the books I recommended
Pay special attention to the things that first attracted you to him
Look at your finances and find a way to work less and enjoy “no cost” fun
Be your husband’s friend again
Turn your home back into a haven or sanctuary that you both want to be in.

Comment on Want your husband to treat you like a queen? by sandra

sandra — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 19:37:59 +0000

Hi, I need advise, I honestly have to say I have a great man, he loves me, our daughter and he cooks, cleans and does laundry… he actually takes care of the house hold duties inside and out. There is one thing, my husband is very needy and very depressed person. He’s always looking to be appreciated and always looking for my affections. I work 2 jobs and I’m always running around doing things with my daughter or just working. I do love my husband, he is such a wonderful guy. My husband likes to be home a lot which me on the other hand I like to have a good time with my girlfriends after a long day of work. My husband does not like to go out with me, he never has enough money to take me out and he doens’t feel right that I have to pay for things, so his way is to just stay home. I’m tired of staying home, I like to do things and get away once in awhile or watch a movie at the theater or something. We’ve been going to counseling now for over 6 months now and he’s always blaming me for not treating him like the king of the house… okay maybe I did say it that i feel like I’m the king of the house because I’m the one that works everyday and I found a second job to support our family. I just feel sometimes my husband is a slacker, he content with drinks and cigrettes and food on our table. I dont’ think he worries to much about house bills like I do.

My husband is a carpenter and he’s wonderful at what he does, he’s changed our house from an ugly duckling to a beautiful place to live… I love it and he gets plenty of compliments. Please help on how I can be a better wife to my husband?

Comment on Want your husband to treat you like a queen? by Treat Your Spouse like a KING

Treat Your Spouse like a KING — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 15:50:48 +0000

Yea…treat others like the way you want to be treated…treat your spouse like aKIng..in return he/she will treat you like a queeen…remember…whatsoever you sow..you will reap….

Gracious

Comment on Smore’s by Terri

Terri — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 14:49:23 +0000

Artist: Aerosmith
Song: “Don’t Wanna Miss A Thing” (I think?)
Movie: Armagedon

Comment on Friendship. . . .talking ’bout friendship by Shar

Shar — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 18:10:05 +0000

PURPLE PUDDLES EVERYWHERE!!!!!!!!!!!

I am one of the blessed friends that has the privilege and honor of knowing Ruralmomof3…… I love her will all my heart and yes, she can be embarrassing but we wouldn’t dare have a “girls day out” without her. She’s a HOOT! Thanks friend!

Comment on The greatest joy in life by Mom

Mom — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 14:30:28 +0000

Hey did you or D take the picture of the chicken?

It makes my day seeing and reading your stuff! My daughter the writer! just remember you have two
more brothers to write about. Love You, just being
a MOM.